External circumstances

As a Forty Plusser I know that the real issue is not so much on what others do to us…, but how we react (or overreact) to external circumstances… If our inner sense of wellbeing is dependent on how others treat us…, we will remain miserable much of the time… What others do to me is their issue… How I respond is always my issue…, my responsibility…, and my choice… Furthermore…, when we overreact to external circumstances…, it is always our problem… We overreact when we have hurtful issues from the past that we have never resolved…, and those ancient buried feelings get triggered…