Be yourself. No strength for pretense

Experience is your best teacher.
You know that life isn’t always a straight line. Sometimes you fail and sometimes you succeed. Since you were young, you had this picture in your head of how your live is supposed to be. The please review me button…. point out of 5. How shocking that you may only achieve an 1 out of 5 score based on this preconceived picture. To be honest. This benchmark is actually based on how you compare yourself to others! Don’t measure your progress by using somebody else’s ruler.
O my hat! Stop that nonsense.
You are who you are. Unique, the one and only of your kind. Just be yourself! We are living in the era of pretense. It’s a make believe world. False facade. But at some point in our lives we are all pretending. Trying to survive, trying to fit in… losing ourselves in the process.
Pretending or Pretend may refer to role-playing.
Pretenders do it unconsciously or consciously with a changing behaviour to suit and adopt every roll. They are really good actors in this game! And the Oscar goes to…. !!!
That’s the thing with social media.
It is quite easy faking the perfect life online! Everything looks amazing from the outside. A life of total pretense. The Great Pretenders. But here’s the thing, I like genuine people without pretense. People who know they have imperfections.
The ever pretending “rich” people.
You know, those people who buy things, with money they don’t have, to impress people they don’t like. Why pretend to be rich? If you can’t stop your extravagant spending habits, you may soon find yourself money less. You know…
Don’t pretend to be my friend.
Be my friend. Easy as that! I can’t stand bogus friends who uses you. You do favors for them frequently, but they are never off to make favors for you. They pretend to be your friend but social with the enemy. Backstabbing at it’s best. I wonder what you are gossiping about me?
Stressed in the company of certain people.
Lip biting moments? I am talking about people with narcissistic trademarks. You are stressed because you are afraid to exploit and unmask that person for who the really are. You want to spill the beans on that person’s falseness! But you must (pretend to) behave when in public! So now you are the pretender, pretending that everything is hunky dory, instead of punching that person on the nose!
Lot’s of people pretend to be this perfect little family.
Nice little house, nice green lawn, nice marriage, nice kiddies, nice doggies, all happiness…. Lovy dovey. Yes, sure!
Be proud of your reflection in the mirror.
Be yourself.
No pretense.
Fyodor Dostoyevsky once said
Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.”

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8 thoughts on “Be yourself. No strength for pretense

  1. Akshaya Thulasi Sep 8, 2018 — 9:59 am

    Penned well
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    Be your . No strength for pretense✌️

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  2. I wish I had been this in tune when I was 40. I could have avoided those later years of painful discovery of the numerous fakes I had allowed into my life. It’s so much easier when you learn to stop expecting anything from anyone, you rely on yourself for happiness and you value those few people in your life that are your true friends. I love your journey.

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  3. Growing Pains Nov 2, 2018 — 3:26 pm

    I’ve definitely been guilty of comparing myself to perceived “benchmarks” in life, and what I for years thought my life was supposed to look like. I’m beginning to let go of some of that now, and enjoy my crazy journey for the uniqueness and unexpected experience and joy that its brought me. I’m able to work on this largely via the truth and encouragement of posts like these. Very well written, and very apprapo, especially in today’s society. Thank you. 🙂

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    1. I am glad that you can enjoy your ‘crazy journey’. It’s worth it! Just be YOU! 🤗

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  4. Growing Pains Nov 2, 2018 — 3:41 pm

    Easier said than done, but I’m getting there. 🙂

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  5. Absolutely! I’m with you 100 percent on all of it!! I have always told people that I am me because I simply don’t know how to be anyone else. Nor do I want to. I may not always like me, but I am all I have.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by. Have a nice day💖


  6. Yes…be original…follow your own path…not bothering about people are doing or saying…

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