As a Forty Plusser I like to read about wisdom. This morning I read this post on facebook. I could not have said it better!!
Here it goes…
Women are held to some of the most insane standards in pretty much every single country of the world.
You have to be a certain way, act a certain way, think a certain way, work a certain way, have fun a certain way, and stay on top of all the rules that men don’t have to. Why?
A lot of reasons that we won’t get into right now. Ladies, it’s time for you to stop giving a f*ck about all this nonsense that you’ve been told you have to care about.
It’s time for you to start dancing to your own tune and doing things your way. Most of the stuff you’re told you have to care about, you don’t really have to care about.
What makes life more enjoyable for strong women compared to the average person? They don’t give a single f*ck about the little things.
They know what really matters in life. They seize the day and live life with positivity and passion.
Want to be a strong woman? Read our list of tips to learn how to stop worrying about the little things and make your life more fulfilling and successful.
We’re going to run through a list of things for you to stop giving a f*ck about. Some of it may be hard for you to hear. But hear it anyway.
Stop giving a f*ck about your ex.
This is a tough one. It’s hard not to separate yourself emotionally from someone that you probably deeply loved at one point.
But when the relationship is over, it’s time to stop giving a f*ck about your ex. His or her problems, drama, financial woes, or whatever.
Even if you decide to remain friends with your ex, that doesn’t mean you have to carry the weight of their drama anymore. So cut the dead weight. Stop giving a f*ck about your ex.
Learn how to keep your partner coming back for more, click here and watch this free video from relationship expert, Amy North.
Stop giving a f*ck about fashion.
Women’s clothing is a complicated, ridiculous thing nine times out of ten.
Kind of unrelated, but how insane is it that most women’s’ pants are made with smaller pockets to try to force you to buy purses? What a racket. But I digress.
Ladies, it’s time we stop giving a f*ck about the fashion choices of the day. Who cares? Honestly.
Thrift store t-shirt, some jeans, and a cardigan and you’re good pretty much most times of the year. You really don’t have to overthink it.
And honestly, don’t feel like you have to wear makeup or anything. All natural is awesome.
Hillary Clinton did the whole no makeup thing as Secretary of State and it was fine. You probably don’t need to get dolled up for the grocery store.
Stop giving a f*ck about “ladylike” etiquette.
It’s not the 1700s anymore.
All this polite, lady-like demands that men try to hoist on you is over. You can fart. You can burp. You don’t have to shave your pits and legs. You can wear pants or skirts or overalls or short shorts or nothing, it doesn’t matter.
The standards for etiquette thrust onto women is absolutely ridiculous. If men don’t have to shave their legs and pits, you shouldn’t have to either if you don’t want to. It’s not gross.
If it was bad, why the hell does your body grow hair there? And if a guy doesn’t wanna be with you because you’ve got hairy pits, wish him the best of luck on the dating market and move on.
Stop giving a f*ck about your mistakes.
Intrusive thoughts can be a real bastard. Have you ever been taking a shower and a memory of some massive mistake pops into your head and you can’t let go of it?
Stop giving a f*ck about it. Don’t worry about your mistakes.
If your mistakes weren’t bad enough to continue haunting you, they probably aren’t bad enough for you to be dwelling on them now.
Don’t get me wrong. This isn’t me saying that you’re great no matter what mistakes you’ve made.
If you’ve made some big mistakes and you haven’t bothered to learn from them and grow as a person, chances are you’re not really that great of a person.
Sorry. But if you’ve taken the time to learn and grow, stop giving a f*ck about old mistakes.
Stop giving a f*ck about shady friends.
Someone once told me “you can’t break up with your friends.” Says who?
I’ve broken up with so many of my friends. You reach a point where, when you have a toxic friend, you just can’t do it anymore.
A friend who say things about you behind your back is not your friend. A friend who gets a new boyfriend and then never speaks to you again was not your friend – so don’t just take them back when they’re single again.
A friend who cheats with your boyfriend is not your friend. Dump your shady friends. You’ll thank me later.
Stop giving a f*ck about fitting in.
The whole world isn’t high school. Stop giving a f*ck about fitting in.
If you’re reading this and you are in high school, same advice applies. Throughout this list you’ll see a recurring meme: be who you are and let the real people in this world come to you.
Don’t pretend to be something you’re not in order to make friends and attract people to you. Or think about it this way, if you’re fake, you’re going to attract fakes.
If you’re pretending to be something you aren’t, you’re only going to attract people who’re pretending to be something they aren’t too.
And the real you comes out eventually, so even if your act brought in real people, they’re not gonna like finding out that it was all an act all along. So cut the act with trying to fit in. It’s pointless.
Stop giving a f*ck about things you can’t control.
There’s this old contrived platitude that’s like “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it” and as much as it pains me to say it, it’s true.
The things that happen to you are largely outside of your control. Worrying about it is a misuse of your time and energy.
Stop giving a f*ck about the things in your life that you control. Start giving a f*ck about how you react to it.
It’s hard to get yourself to a point where you’re ready at just about any time for anything that can happen, but in this day and age, women especially have to be sharp and aware and prepared to take on anything.
So stop worrying about it and start preparing for how you react to the things you can’t control.
Stop giving a f*ck about your status.
Women shouldn’t care about what status their accessories indicate. Hell, men can get in on this one too.
Ladies and gentlemen alike, you don’t have to prove your value through status symbols like rings, fancy cars, designer clothes, and special handbags. That stuff doesn’t matter. It’s not real.
A Gucci purse is just a purse. Who cares? It’s where you put your tampons and wallet and things. It is not that important. Don’t show off your status. Show off what you know. Show off where you’ve been.
The adventures you have. The people you’ve met. The experiences you’ve had. The person you are on the inside is far more interesting than any status symbol you might rock on the outside.
And besides, it’s a lot more fun to wear, drive, and do whatever you want than what other people think you should.
Stop giving a f*ck about basic toxic relationships.
People can be such assholes. There’s no getting around that in life.
Just about every woman can tell you about a time when one of their female friends talked behind their back, did some shady stuff, and just wasn’t a very good friend. These things happen.
First of all, don’t stoop to their level. That’s what drama queens want you to do; help them create more drama. Cut them out.
These women aren’t your friends, and you cannot maintain your friendship with them by being just as terrible as they are.
When you remove yourself from toxic people and dump your toxic, basic friends, not only do you free yourself from their influence, but you diminish their influence.
And that’s what these women want more than anything else. Leave them behind.
Stop giving a f*ck about your image.
I have known so many women, especially women in their 20s, who think they have to be something super specific in order to fit into the niche they want.
I’ve known funny women who try to be some quirky, Zooey Deschanel knockoff and tough women who try to be Sarah Connor from the second Terminator film.
Here’s a novel idea: maybe just be the woman you are. It’s the 21st century; you don’t have to pretend to be a certain way in order to get validation in our society.
Hell, you don’t even need any kind of validation. Just be yourself. If anyone has a problem with it, forget them.
It can be hard to find your way through life, especially when you’re a young person, but don’t try to be other women.
Don’t concern yourself with your image. Create your image. Lead the way.
Stop giving a f*ck about what other people think.
You are in charge of your own life. If you spend time worrying about the opinions of others, you could lose track of what makes you happy and what success means to you.
Don’t make any changes based on the judgments other people make about your lifestyle. The only time you should reconsider the way you live your life is if you feel unsatisfied yourself.
Stop giving a f*ck about being right all the time.
Everyone makes mistakes. It’s a part of the human condition. The difference between a being strong woman and an average one is figuring out how to leverage what you learn moving forward.
In fact, making mistakes is often the best way to learn something new and to improve. Owning and admitting when you are wrong is a sure sign that you are a strong woman.
Stop giving a f*ck that you’re single.
Being alone when everyone around you seems to be coupled up can be frustrating and isolating. However, it doesn’t mean you should settle for a less than fulfilling relationship.
Take your time and don’t settle. Focus on yourself first and make sure that anyone you choose to enter into a relationship respects and admires you like the strong woman you are.
For more great relationship advice and tips, watch this video from relationship expert Amy North: Click Here To Watch The Full Video.
Stop giving a f*ck about expressing yourself in bed.
You and your partner should be on the same page when it comes to what makes you happy in bed.
Sometimes, your partner won’t know what to do; in order to have the most fulfilling experience, it might mean that you have to take the lead—and that’s okay.
But don’t be afraid to take charge of the situation to make sure you enjoy yourself and have the best experience! This is all about you.
Stop not giving a f*ck about your health.
There are a lot of people out there who seem to think that you have a responsibility to be happy in your skin no matter what, and it’s the world’s responsibility to embrace who you are.
I personally think that’s kinda BS. Self love is good but self awareness is important too. Especially if you’re young, if you’re making bad decisions with your health, stop.
If you’re drinking to excess every weekend, cut back. It takes a toll on your body, one that you won’t appreciate later on.
Same thing goes for smoking. Same thing goes for not exercising. Same thing goes for eating whatever. Same thing goes for being overweight. I’ll say it. This blowback against “fat shaming” that’s all the rage on Tumblr is idiotic.
If you’re fat, you shouldn’t feel ashamed. But if you’re crying about fat shaming because children stare and you need to buy two seats on a plane because of how large you are, you should be ashamed.
Love yourself. Great. But know that being fat is unhealthy, and this whole “no fat shaming” thing is socially detrimental.
I’ll tell you what any well trained doctor would: if you’re overweight because you eat too much, lose some weight. Care about your health!