Silly Season anxiety

(This is my own poem):


I don’t always know….

Christmas Season…. happy?

Silly Season… melancholy?


As a Forty Plusser I definitely know that there’s suppose to be a thing called the “Christmas Spirit”. I am not always in touch with this spirit!  Not at all!  Mostly, because of my depression, it is a great effort to get into this “feeling”. But I try anyway! Decorating the Christmas tree helps to brighten up my gloomiest of moods!

Wikipedia: “Christmas is an annual festival commemorating the birth of Jesus Christ observed primarily on December 25 as a religious and cultural celebration among billions of people around the world”.

We all experience Christmas differently.   Right, there are days that I wish for some sort of survival mode buttons in life…Actually a PANIC button!!  Lol!!..  getting Christmas over…  It can easily become a journey of complete endurance…  

Christmas Carols: Wow! “Rudolph, the Red Nosed Reindeer”. “White Christmas”, “We wish you a merry Christmas!”. Okay, Christmas Carols is nice, but after hearing the same song over 20 times on the radio or shopping mall I am a little bit fedup…

Aftermath: Christmas can become a financial headache. Have you noticed that you feel pressured to spend more than you can actually afford? Creditcard bills can take months to clear!

Memories: This is a big one for me.  If you lost a loved one, Christmas can trigger painful memories.

Expectations: Christmas don’t have to be an absolute “perfect” day. No need for pressure! The media like to advertise idealised expectations regarding Christmas!

Family gatherings: Christmas is great time to social with friends and family. Not all people like family gatherings. Sometimes people just feel obligated to join family holiday gatherings. The truth is that you will always have “that family member”that loves causing the occasional family drama. Just smile…

Traditions: There’s a lot of pressure to keep up with family traditions. I am over it. I don’t continue family traditions that leaves me tired and overwhelmed.

Eating habits: Christmas Holidays is that time of year when the best food is cooked. Don’t even try to diet this time of year! You will only fool yourself!

Hangover: There are two types of hangovers during the Silly Season. Number one: People intend to drink too much. Number two: After spending too much time with family you can develop an emotional hangover.

Shopping: Online shopping is a real lifesaver! I choose not to shop in shopping malls, because it’s a bit crowded and I can easily fall in the trap of “retail therapy” and spend way too much money!

Yes, you can either love the idea of Christmas… or if you hate it…just fake it till you make it!

Wisdom: “Christmas in Bethlehem. The ancient dream: a cold, clear night made brilliant by a glorious star, the smell of incense, shepherds and wise men falling to their knees in adoration of the sweet baby, the incarnation of perfect love”.     

Lucinda Franks


16 thoughts on “Silly Season anxiety

  1. Beautiful read. I wish the Christmas spirit envelops u so hard that you get to forget all worries you have.
    Happy Christmas in advance❤🎄🎉🎊🎄

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    1. Thank you very much! Good wishes for you as well🌸💐


  2. I never was a massive fan of Christmas but, since I lost my husband, I’ve really grown to hate it; I don’t want to be jolly just because a fat guy in a red suit says ho ho bloody ho!
    Great post :O) x

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  3. awesome post. just in time!! We realized a few years ago that Christmas was part of our pre-programmed existence. Almost everything we do. Every holiday we celebrate is given to us. Can most people honestly say they would ”choose it” ? It is something handed to us by retailers and some by religion and some by our parents. Traditions are another word for standardized belief systems. pre-programmed. We don’t celebrate it anymore when we realized what it was. We realized though it wasn’t a season of love. Look at black Friday. It isn’t a season of giving or good cheer to each other. It is a season of guilt. Shame. Loneliness for some greed for others. It is something not chosen but demanded of us. What we do instead of Christmas is pick a gift for both of us. something to work on together. like a project. The goal is to have it done by the next Christmas season (november/dec. no particular day) . We also have a dinner for ourselves and our pets. It is a dinner to remember all the good things from the year. We also remember those people we loved who are not with us anymore. sorry for the length…your post stirred the pot of my mind!! you always write so well. i wish i could write that good! thank you!

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    1. Thanks for your comment Madraallta Country Days. I really really like the way that you have “dinner for ourselves and our pets”. 😁💖

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  4. Christmas may be a challenging time of the year in many ways as you pointed out (stillchuckling over Santa.s toboggan) – but your powerful quote by Lucinda Franks puts everything in perspective. Perfect love! A blessed Christmas season to you & yours. 🌷🕯🎄🕯💕🕯🌷

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    1. Blessings to you as well Virginia 🎉🌹🎅

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  5. I hear ya! This is a terrible time of year for those suffering from depression and anxiety. The lack of sunlight, the stresses of the holidays…. Let the count down to the end of the season begin! 😅

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  6. Loved this post. Glad to see that there are others out there that share some of the same sentiments I have about Christmas.

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  7. The birth of Christ took place about the end of September, but they ‘moved’ to celebrate it about Saturnalia in December, in order to attract more Romans.
    Let’s take The Christmas in Bethlehem, as Lucinda Franks said, every morning and evening in our souls, and let’s indulge in the feasts and orgies of December, where slaves are liberated and masters serve them dinner, just for fun.
    Carpe diem!
    Oh, loved your post,

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  8. I think we should celebrate Christmas the way we want to, and not how retailers tell us to. They want it all about money. And what about those commercials that shows “perfect living, and perfect giving,” and it makes one feel guilty if that’s not the way we are living….. don’t fall for it. After all Christ – mas is a time where we are supposed to be remembering our Saviour and what He did and is doing for us. I’m sure He would never want us to be caught up in the stress and everything that Christmas is. Inspite of everything 😀 may you enjoy the season. Blessings.

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  9. To me Christmas is going to church and celebrate the birth of Christ. I only buy presents for my three grandchildren online so I avoid the mall crowd and I only buy one present each.

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  10. You are funny! Your work makes my day. I can relate to your feeling of overwhelm. Thank you for sharing! I especially enjoyed your tip of smiling at the family member who is creating drama. I will use that. 😊

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