As a Forty Plusser I try to be my original self. I hope it’s a good thing! LOL!!
Here’s the thing. You know how you sometimes stare at a person walking past you… thinking… o boy! When sitting in a restaurant…always checking out people… mostly not always in a good way… laughing at their “flaws” – the way they eat with an open mouth… their clothing… their hairstyles… O man! I can be a real “sinner” in these situations… Bad Me!!
The big question is “what the hell are they thinking and saying behind my back – about ME?”. Nevermind, I would rather not know at all!! Maybe it’s better this way! We are all unique and I don’t think that life has intended us to be the same. Why do you want to be like somebody else? Why do you want to pretend to be somebody you’re not?
Why would you want to live a copy/paste life?
The lack of self-confidence can lead to an acute case of “chameleon syndrome”. Trying to copy other people’s “ways” to blend in to be socially accepted. To me, a copy/paste lifestyle can feel like a threat or an obligation: Copy certain people – or be an outsider! So be it! I can live as an outsider, thank you very much!
Okay, I must admit that you can’t reinvent the wheel of absolute originality. I honestly believe that all personality trademarks of humans have been used! So, when you are your original self you are actually showing confidence in your abilities or qualities. You are the one and only! Don’t try to be like anyone else. Be the artist of your own life. Use your own paintbrush that was handed out to you.
I am a Forty Plusser and long gone are those days that I would do something against my will. Why would I want to be a people’s pleaser? Why would I want to change my attitude or values to conform to a certain influenceable group or individual. I do what I want to do. I am who I am.
Living a copy/paste lifestyle can become a very gruelling and troublesome journey. During this process, you can easily lose yourself. “Who de hell am I?”. Is it really worth it? Rather hit that “home button” on the keyboard – the safe haven of just being your own original self.
Remember – You are awesome and unique. Express your talents. Don’t be ashamed of who you are. Show others what YOU ARE!! Try not to feel inferior to others.
Say “Hello Life! This is me!”
Wisdom: “Always be original. Never duplicate what you’ve seen another actor do. Be true to the character that you’ve been given, and the rest will come easy”. Lee Tamahori