As a Forty Plusser I love to read other blogger’s posts. I notice something interesting: THERE ARE SO MANY POSTS about people struggling to lose weight!
W E I G H T. Reading about what to eat, what not to eat, weigh what you must eat, portion control, shakes, pills, special diets, etc. actually makes me hungry!! All about food and eating! Not to forget all the exercise programmes that promises EASY rapid weight loss (NOT!!).
AS A CHILD I WAS FORCED TO EAT ALL MY FOOD ON MY PLATE! Now I wonder – Can your childhood eating habits contribute to your weight loss struggle as an adult?
I had to obey: I am not a fitness expert. I am not a dietician. I am not a Food Fundy. I am just a woman who has lived in her own body for over 42 years. So yes, I have over 42 years of experience… Maybe I am right. Maybe I am wrong. Can I guess that not everybody’s metabolism reacts to calorie intake the same way??? This always bothered me quit a bit! Did I become fat because I was always told: “Eat all your food on your plate!!!”. No explaining, no nothing. Just a direct order I had to obey. “Eat your food” was imprinted in my brain! LOL!!!
Eat all your food! Yes it was a type force-feeding! First of all – I am not criticizing my Mom! It was just how life was back then. I was never allowed to dish up my own plate of food. I had no choice. Children had to eat ALL (every single crumb…) that was served on their plate. I had zero choice regarding portion control, zero choice regarding food choice , zero nothing. “Eat and keep your mouth shut!!”. Arguing wasn’t allowed. We as kids were told to eat all your food or otherwise it was expected of you to go on some kind of guilt trip. “There are hungry children out there… somewhere… you are ungrateful spoilt bratz…don’t be fuzzy”. Blah blah blah.
The obedient kid: This is the truth and nothing but the whole truth! I was a very very very obedient kid and always did exactly as I was told. It came as no surprise when I evolved into an “eat all you can see on your plate zombie”. I became a chubby little girl! “You are a good child!”, when you eat reluctantly… Can you maybe relate to this type of upbringing? Sh*t, I hope so otherwise I will get a complex about my weirdo upbringing!
Basic need: This is pure logic: Humans need to eat food, or they’ll starve to death. It is after all part of survival. To be honest – it’s kind of unnecessary to tell a child “what and how much to eat”. My memory is still vivid clear about the “I had no choice“. Would it be fair to assume that eating is a most natural human behavior/activity that doesn’t need any form of teaching?
Never got rid of this eating pattern: What I know for a fact is that I never got rid of this “Eat all your food syndrome”. At least, as an adult, I can dish up my own food. (But, I can’t use this “theory of mine” as an excuse!!!). The thing is that my brain interprets the way that food looks on a plate. Food literally indulges my senses and I still want to eat all the food that I see!! (Just the way I was always forced to eat all the food on my plate…) I know that I am brainwashed!!
This is a habit that is almost impossible to break. Ask me!! Food had definitely taken centre stage in my life for too long. It is a mind over matter, eyes vs brain, stomach vs eyes, craving vs brain and an absolute never ending struggle! It’s like an addict that’s reached remission phase…. silently waiting for a relapse… always afraid that you will not be able to control your appetite….
Today I really try to eat to live and not indulge and binge eat with every meal…. I also realised that dining don’t always have to be a super memorable experience. My children are taught to only eat if they are really hungry and that they don’t HAVE to eat if they are not hungry! No big deal!